What's next? I'll let you know when I learn it.

Thought I'd try something new.  Sometimes I need accountability to keep me purposeful in my learning (and other areas of life).  I think we all can learn from each other's experiences so I figure I can get accountability AND share so that other's may benefit along the way.  All that to say, I'm going try sharing what I'm learning once a month.  I don't expect it to be super deep and detailed.  Just an idea of what I'm reading, listening to and pondering.  If something interests you or you have something to add, please connect with me and share.  Let's keep learning together!

In the past month 2 topics have risen to the top.

1)  Art and design

2)  Pondering my reactions to thoughts and how I can adjust my perspective

I'm reading Walter Isaacson's book about Leonardo da Vinci.  I picked it up because I've enjoyed all the other books that he's written but I hadn't read this book yet because, honestly, art hasn't interested me much.  I've been to Florence, The Louvre and the Vatican and quickly walked past the art and sculptures.  I thought the Sistine Chapel was gaudy but appreciated Michelangelo's work.  I stood in a huge crowd inching forward to see the Mona Lisa and walked away underwhelmed.

But, after reading this book, I'm much more interested in what goes into these works of art.  The technique.  The intentional design.  The preparation.  The time it takes.  

Similarly, I've learned about the work of Antoni Gaudi while on a trip in Barcelona.  If I had simply looked at the architecture, I would have said "that's gaudy", as in tacky.  But, after a tour of Sagrada Familia, I have an appreciation for his work.  Again, the preparation, the purpose behind the design, the time, the details...  It's still not exactly "beautiful" to me but it is inspiring and fascinating.  

I'm left wanting to learn more, maybe revisit some of these places with rich histories of art.

Shifting gears.  I often find myself thinking about how I think.  Wondering why I react to certain things in certain ways.  Pondering how I may be able to think about things differently.  I guess the art story even fits with this.  The very same art that bored me a year ago is fascinating to me today.  Why?  Because I have a broader perspective.  A broader appreciation.  Where else in my life might this be true?  Where else in my life do I need this to be true?

On this same trip, we also visited some towns that the Apostle Paul visited.  Ephesus, Corinth, Athens...  Seeing these places and learning more about what they were like when Paul visited has certainly expanded my perspective on the passages we read in Acts, Ephesians, 1&2 Corinthians...  God used these major economic centers to help facilitate the spread of the Gospel and these strong economic cities turned into ancient ruins.  Ephesus went from being a port city to being being 7 kilometers away from the coast thanks to silt deposits from the river.  These things were true before I visited but now my perspective has expanded.  I can see how we are part of the same story as Paul.  I can also see that life as we know it will almost certainly change and maybe even cease to exist.  Imagine Atlanta or New York City as we know it becoming simply ruins.  Rome, Ephesus, Athens, Corinth show us that this is "normal" as time moves along.  It's so easy to think we are apex of civilization.  I'm sure the Roman's and Ephesians felt the same way.  God used these economic power houses for the spread of His Gospel and then the center of power moved.  I'm pretty sure that will be true of for us as well.  So, we are part of a BIG story and our current reality won't remain as we know it for very long in the grand story.

So, what will be next for learning?  I'll let you know when I learn it!

Viral Thinking

March 13, 2020.  That was the last day our dining room was open for customers due to a virus that's become most commonly known as COVID-19.  

For a week or so after, a topic of debate was masks and the initial message from health officials was for us to not wear masks in order to protect the supply of masks for medical professionals.  Just weeks later, masks became encouraged by the CDC and commonly seen in public spaces.  Chick-fil-A and the city of Durham then required them.  It's unusual to see folks in public without a mask now.

Somewhere along the way, masks went from a health issue to a political issue.  One side requiring them as a public health issue like seatbelts.  One side dismissing them as an infringement on their freedom, like freedom of speech.

Now it's become pretty easy to predict a person's opinion on masks and COVID-19 based on their political persuasion and church membership.  That just seems odd to me.  It's a virus.  It's science and medical.  Yet, we are collectively basing our stance more on politicians and pastors than scientists and medical experts.  Not to mention the media outlets that are mostly aligned with these groups.  For or against. 

It's a virus.  I don't call my representative when my shoulder starts hurting.  I also don't ask my pastor for advice regarding treatment for my thyroid.  I ask health professionals.  

When forming thoughts, it makes sense to listen to experts in that field.  I don't ask my financial advisor for help with my car's AC system.  

Perspectives

        

What do you see?  Describe it.  

Would you agree that its a white styrofoam cup with red lettering that says "Sit and sip awhile"?

  

How about this one?  Describe it.

Would you agree that its a white styrofoam cup with a large red icon that looks like a chicken?  Any words?  

And this one?  Describe it.

Looks like a styrofoam cup again.  White.  I can see "Sit..." but that's it.  I can see some red marks on the left side but its not really clear what the image is.  Same on the right.

If a person only saw the first picture and described it to a person that only saw the last picture, would they be describing the cup the same way?  How about the middle picture? Which would be wrong?  

They'd each be describing the same cup but they'd be describing it in different ways.  And, they'd each be accurate.  And, they'd all not being seeing what the other person was describing.

Situations, problems, opportunities...  I think they all are like this cup.  I tend to see them from the angle that I naturally see things.  And another person is very likely going to see them differently.  It's very easy for me to think I'm right which means they must be wrong.  Often we are looking at the same "cup" but just seeing a different side of it.  

I also have realized that when I am having trouble solving a problem I often need to simply find a different angle to look at the problem from.  I've seen this when I'm putting together a jigsaw puzzle.  When I'm stumped, I walk away and come back later and look at it from a different position. Often, the piece I'm looking for "magically" appears when I find a different perspective to look at it.

How about a disagreement with another person?  We tend to just yell louder what we see from our angle.  Would that make sense when describing this cup?  If you want the best perspective on this cup, you would either purposefully walk around it to see it completely or you would listen closely to what others see.  That would give you the best understanding of what the cup looks like completely.  Maybe when we are in a disagreement we should stop insisting on what we see and consider listening more closely to what the other person sees first.  

Even if our perspective is best, often we are able to best persuade others when we can show that we see it from their angle as well.  

Seeing the other person's perspective doesn't mean you always have to say they are right.  But, it does show that you understand their perspective.  That's a great place to begin a discussion.  

Rather than reading books that reinforce your perspective, maybe its time to read some books or listen to some podcasts that expand your perspective.  We like when others affirm our thoughts.  They are simply reinforcing the cup looks like you described from that angle.  We don't tend to like when people challenge our perspective.  But, often, they are simply describing another angle of the same cup.  

You don't have to compromise your beliefs to understand the beliefs that others have.  In fact, often the best way to strengthen your beliefs is to see them from multiple perspectives.     

Hitting Your Marks

Imagine yourself in a Porsche 911 GT2.  On a race track, completely by yourself.  No limits.  Taking laps.

You are on the long straight away, gas pedal on the floor.  Engine whining!  140, 150, 160, 180 mph...!  And then... CRASH!!!!  

What happened?!?!  Well, at the end of that straight is a 90 degree right turn and you didn't hit the brakes in order to enter that turn under control.  Car went straight into the tire barrier at full speed.

Good news is you survived.  A little sore.  Also good news is you have another Porsche 911 GT2 you can get back on the track with.  How will you approach that straight away the next time?

Hit your marks!

On the side of the track, approaching the turns, are numbered signs.  Race drivers learn at which mark they need to get off the gas and onto the brakes in order to make the turn safely while not compromising their lap times.  The best drivers know exactly what their limits are because they've practiced, learned from mistakes, and studied others that are better than them.

The best driver isn't the one that hits the top speed on the straight away.  It's the driver that hits their marks and has the best lap time AND protects the car so they can do lap after lap without crashing or wearing out the equipment prematurely.  If its a qualifying lap, they know how hard the car can go one lap.  If its a 2 hour race, they know how hard the car can go between fuel stops.  If its a 24 hour race, they know how hard the car can go.  Top speed doesn't matter if the car dies before the end of the race.  AND, simply lasting till the end doesn't matter if you are 10 laps behind the rest of the field.  The key is optimizing your pace while avoiding a crash or burnout.  

We all have "marks" we need to hit in our personal lives as well as our professional lives.  Examples in my personal life would be daily prayer and devotion time, hitting my target calories each day, monthly check ins with my mentors, daily reading, exercise...

Examples at CFA would be things like our parking lot timer, setting clear expectations with team members at the beginning of the shift, breaks, food safety/quality checks, ice timer, repeating orders...  When we stop using our marks, we tend to hit the corners too fast and either wear out the tires prematurely or crash.  We want to win the race.  We need to make it to the end of the race to win it.  For us, its a 16 hour race each day.  Let's hit our marks.

Here is an in-car video of a hot lap at the local road track.  Hitting the marks.  

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RFxfmMwe89I

And another in a track prepared racing Ferrari with the driver narrating and explaining his "marks".

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EJPmU2ogfJk

Another one with a driving coach sharing the thinking on a lap.  Hitting marks.  Shifting perspectives...

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Ro_JAwvVLO4

Me and Tom Brady (or Brooks Koepka)

Last weekend was the PGA Championship and there were two big stories from it.  1)  Tiger missed the cut after having won the Masters 4 weeks prior.    2)  Brooks Koepka began the final round with the largest lead since the 1930s.

Both stories had a common component.  Preparation.  Tiger is older now.  He needs weeks and weeks of prep to build up to a PGA major event.  Between the post Master's events, only 4 weeks between events, and an illness just prior to the event, Tiger wasn't able to complete his necessary prep work to begin the event in a condition to win.

Brooks Koepka is 29.  Single.  In tremendous shape.  Strong mind.  He came prepared and dominated from the first few tees.  He had some issues in the final round but was able to draw on his preparation and power through to victory.  And commentators were already speculating on how long he could keep that level of preparation up. 

Tom Brady doesn't eat Strawberries... or lots of other common foods.  Why?  He's found that being over 40 in the NFL, his success hinges directly on everything he does between games.  His diet.  His exercise.  His preparation.

Michael Phelps.  In his final Olympics, Phelps was aiming for particular number of golds and needed one more.  The challenge was that his last swim was so close to his previous swim and dramatically cut into his pre-swim prep.  That was the story.  How would he adapt?  He won.

Story after story of pro athletes that have maintained a high level of performance directly related to their prep.  And its not just physical prep.  It's mental.  Ever notice all the guys wearing headphones as they arrive at the event hours before game time?  They are getting their mental game going.

How often do we just jump into an activity or role with limited prep?  We want sustained excellence but we don't do the prep work.  And, just because we've excelled previously we act like that will just continue.  Often, as we age, as life adds complexity, as the role grows, we actually need more preparation, not less.

If tomorrow matters.  Preparation matters.                   

   

Tony, You Are an Underachiever...

"Tony, you are an underachiever."

Those are the words of one of my college professors when I went to his office after getting a D on a book summary.  I didn't respond too well to that comment in the moment BUT I didn't dismiss it either.  And, it turns out he was right.  Or, at least partially right.

That same year my college baseball coach gave me an opportunity I had been saying I wanted for 3+ years.  I wanted to pitch.  I had been at shortstop most of High School and College and it wasn't my favorite position.  Pitcher and catcher were my favorites but thanks to some injuries early in High School plus the fact that our team needed a shortstop I ended up there most of my games.  I kept asking my college coach for an opportunity at pitcher or catcher.  The reality was we already had enough decent catchers so I knew that probably wasn't going to be my opportunity.  But, a team rarely has enough quality pitchers.  I asked for 3 years.  "No, Tony, we need you at shortstop."

Then, in the fall of my senior year, my coach calls my name before a game and says "Tony, go warm up."  I was a little confused.  I was ready to play shortstop that game, just as I had for the previous 3 years.  So, I asked "to pitch??" and he said "yes".  YES!!!

I don't actually remember how that game went but it must have gone pretty well because by the spring, I was one of our top 3 starting pitchers.  After 4+ years of no pitching, I had my opportunity and I was making the most of it... Until, my arm started throbbing.  Because I hadn't been preparing to pitch, my arm wasn't conditioned to handle the strain of pitching.  Many nights I couldn't sleep due to the pain.  Advil and Motrin had become a daily supplement.  By the end of that season, I not only couldn't pitch, I couldn't even throw the ball from shortstop to 1st base.  I finished the year playing 2nd base so I could get the ball to 1st.

What if I had prepared during those years that I had been asking for the opportunity to pitch?  I had enough talent to go right in and become a starting pitcher with zero preparation for years.  I knew I was a better pitcher than I was shortstop but I hadn't prepared.  Who knows if I had the ability to play at least minor league ball BUT I do know I was talented enough to at least consider it.  When the opportunity presented itself, I wasn't ready.

At the end of my senior year instead of hopes of continuing playing ball, I was thankful for the time to rest my arm.  I didn't throw a ball for over a year and the next time I did, it was on a church softball team.

My professor was right.  I had underachieved.  Thankfully, though, God had another door ahead of me that my baseball experience was preparing for.  Another opportunity and, again, preparation would be key.  Would I be prepared this time?

Fields of Dreams

The last few days have been spent at my grandparents house near Cobleskill, NY.  It's a place I've visited my entire life.  Each visit is a benchmark of my past, from my earliest memories.  Some are really just memories of photos that I don't actually remember living.  They begin in a house my grandfather built on a street he has lived his entire life on.  My bedroom being upstairs on the other side of my parents room (no hallway).  My great grandmother's house just a baseball throw away and across the street.  Their yards were huge... at least in my memory.  I don't remember an end to their backyards.  It was "impossible" to hit a ball out of the yard.  We could roam freely, no limits.  Well, that's what I remember.  Now, as I drive by those houses, the yards seem remarkably normal.  The Weeping Willows are still there but the yards aren't as big.

On this trip, I realized something else.  My dreams had changed.    Life has happened.  I've grown.  I have a career.  A family.  And as I've gone down these paths, the limitless dreams, sometimes assumptions of how life would be, have evolved in my mind just like the yards I grew up playing ball on.  Some dreams, like the Weeping Willows, are still there.  They've grown over the years and endured the winters.  Some are like the boundaries of the yards.  I'm not sure if they've shrunk but they sure aren't as limitless and grand as they seemed 30 years ago.  Some, like the Shortstop Diner in Cooperstown, are just gone.  They don't exist anymore.

I also saw how those dreams have shaped me.  It's Cobleskill and Cooperstown that gave me an image of life outside a large city.  They gave me a target to aim for when CFA asked where we'd like to live.  A place that was smaller and a bit slower than the big city.  A place with fresh air, stillness.  A place where a community may still gather at "general stores".  Oh, and baseball.  I dreamed of playing at least minor league ball.

Running the bases with my daughters at the Bulls ballpark, slowing just a bit as we got to shortstop to take a look at home plate and envisioning a ground ball coming.  Or, a couple swings with a wooden bat and real baseballs during an open house.  That's how Durham has played into my early baseball dreams.  Part of me still thinks I could play the game if I put forth the effort...

A baseball, a bat, a ball diamond is still what inspires me to dream.  They still provide a moment of comfort.  Peace.  Stillness.  A place to think about what's next.  To dream about what's next.

My sport has changed.  My family has changed.  My home has changed.  My dreams have changed.  But, I can still go after them if I put forth the effort.

Varsity vs Rec League

Growing up playing baseball in little league, it was just part of the game that some of the kids on the team couldn't catch, throw or hit.  We were kinda used to it.  When the ball went that way, you knew it wouldn't be an out.  You just hoped it wouldn't be an in the park home run that started out as a ground ball to second base...  I enjoyed the game starting out.

A very distinct memory I have is that when I made the high school baseball team, I started to experience baseball very differently.  It didn't matter where the ball was hit.  Every position was capable of making the play.  We no longer had to put the fastest guy in a position to always back up the guy that never caught the ball.  Each player could truly focus on their role and trust the entire team.  Baseball got so much more enjoyable to play when you could trust your teammates.  All of them.

When we put together a team we need to be very intentional about whether we are a rec team just giving people a chance to try something or are we a Varsity level team that is committed to playing with excellence?

We also must consider who we want to attract.  The best ball players want to play with other good ball players.  A star athlete isn't likely to stick around on a rec team very long when they can't trust their teammates on routine plays.

As coaches, we get to decide who plays and when they play.  Do we want to attract the star Varsity player?  Or, the kid that doesn't know which side of the plate to stand on when its time to hit?

Be the coach that will attract those players.

Build the team that will attract other great players.

That's where championships are built.                 

... disaster is imminent

"When the rate of external change exceeds the rate of internal change, disaster is imminent."  Dan Cathy shared this years ago.

It's March 2019.  March is normally a fairly busy month at CFAROX.  In February we were looking forward to March and planning for some steady growth given the trends at the time.  Then March hit.  And it hit fast!  The week of March 1 was our busiest week ever.  Every day has been the level normally only seen on Fridays.  As I type this we are up 22%.  It's possible that we could beat our previous best month by 10%.  And that is with 5 Sundays, one less business day.  We could be up in one month what used to be a solid annual increase.

The rate of change is mind-bending.  So, what should we do...?  Hit the gym!

We can't sustain this level of performance unless we are hitting the leadership and personal growth gym.

Physical fitness - It can be exhausting to have 20% growth.  We've got to be healthy and have endurance.

Relational fitness - We've got to have supporters inside and outside the business.

Mental fitness - We've got to continue learning.  The problems that come with this level of business are opportunities to learn and discover new, smarter ways to do what we do.

And, of course, it begins with spiritual fitness.  Proverbs 4:23  "Above all else, guard your heart for everything you do flows from it."
           

Prepare for the Unknown

Back in 2007 I was lying on a hospital bed hooked up to some monitors and an IV.  Probably sounds like a dramatic story coming, huh?  Sorry.  Just a routine hernia surgery.  In and out in no time.  Running again within a few weeks.

In 2006 I had run a marathon and I had continued my fitness into 2007 so I was in pretty good shape.  Not world class.  My marathon time wasn't exactly remarkable but I did complete it.

As I was lying there, the doctor asked if I exercised because my heart rate was pretty low.  My resting heart rate when I'm in good cardio shape is in the 40s, often the low 40s.  That's only OK if you are exercising.  It's a concern if this is normal without exercise.  So, all good.  Then he makes a comment that has stuck with me.  "Tony, your fitness is making my job easier AND your recovery will be quicker."  That's good news when a surgeon is telling you this.  I certainly hadn't planned on having that surgery but my preparation sure helped out.

Pro athletes, Navy Seals, actors...  They all train hard and they train for the unknown.  It's too late if you find yourself in a jam that you haven't prepared for.  Reminds me of the movie Captain Philips.  3 Navy Seal snipers take out 3 pirates with 3 shots (one shot each) simultaneously.  Precision was an absolute must.  If any of the 3 had missed their shot by even a few inches, the hostages would have been likely killed.  Oh, and the sniper shots were taken from a boat at a boat that were both rocking in the waves.  Did those snipers know they'd one day have to perform this scenario?  I doubt it.  How often do you hear about these things?  There is a reason this was turned into a movie...  What if they hadn't prepared for this unknown?

What does that look like?  3 For 3.  Regular workouts to develop Mental, Relational, and Physical fitness.  In order to develop a Strong Work Ethic, Relentless Pursuit of Excellence and A Servant Mindset.

Mentors, books, podcasts, walking, running, pushups, healthy foods...  You probably won't reap the benefits of all these immediately BUT they will prepare you for opportunities that come down the road.  If those Seals had waited till this emergency to train on the skills needed to execute the mission those hostages probably wouldn't have survived.

What are you preparing for?
           

       

I Can Do That

                                                        
Growing up, one of my favorite ballplayers was Cal Ripken Jr.  I was super pumped to get one of his rookie baseball cards.  1982 Topps.

He played for the Baltimore Orioles his entire career, mostly at shortstop which was part of the appeal for me.  I was a shortstop.

Cal didn't have a pretty swing.  In fact, it was kind of ugly.  I read that he was constantly adjusting it.  Relentless Pursuit of Excellence before I knew the phrase.  He was never "the best player in the game."  He was a solid player.

BUT, there was one thing he did better than anybody else in the game, ever.  He showed up.  In fact, he showed up for 2,632 consecutive games.  That is 502 more than the second most, Lou Gehrig.  That is 17 years in a row without missing a game about 160 games per season.  He played through sprained ankles, twisted knees, a broken nose, even a herniated disk.  These are on top of the routine wear and tear of any pro ball player.  This earned him a spot in the MLB Hall of Fame.

Cal Ripken was one of my heros growing up.  He seemed like a normal guy that just showed up and played the game.  Not flashy.  Not pretty.  Just showed up.  Every day.  I COULD DO THAT. 

I have no doubt that this consistency is what opened doors for me.  I showed up and did what I said I would day in and day out.  CFA had trust in me.  I worked with much more talented people than me.  Much smarter.  But, they weren't consistent.  They didn't get the opportunity.

There are alot of things I can't do very well but I can show up.  I CAN DO THAT.

What can you do about it?

Back in 1998 I had a conversation with a very successful businessman and during our time together I learned that he had dropped about 50 lbs and was working on a few more.  He'd adjusted his diet and gave up a couple bad habits.  (This isn't a weight management post.  It just happens to involve a person's discipline as it pertained to his weight.)

He said "Tony, I can't control what other people think.  It doesn't matter if I think it is wrong, BUT it's my observation that society discriminates against big people.  Look at who gets opportunities and they are more often not overweight.  I've built this business with discipline and hard work and I want to be in position for more opportunities down the road.  When I look around at what I can control that could impact my future opportunities, I realized that I could do something about my weight.  So, I had a choice.  I could remain as I was and disagree with people that discriminate against me, or I can control what I can control and avoid that obstacle all together.  I decided to do what I could do."

I haven't kept in contact with this person over the years but I am aware of them and see them occasionally.  He HAS been given more and bigger opportunities and is thriving.  I'm not sure if his decision to control his weight specifically played into these opportunities but I am certain that his mindset to control what he can control has been a driver of his success professionally and personally.     

Pot of Gold at the end of the rainbow...

                                      

What if there really was a pot of gold at the end of the rainbow?  Would you try to find it?

I'm reading a book about people searching for a "lost city" on the Amazon river.  Stories include vast amounts of gold and other treasure at this city.  BUT, there is doubt that the city ever actually existed.  Hundreds of people have explored the area, many never making it back out.  The assumption is they died in their efforts.  Either from snake bites, starvation, cannibal tribes...  The "treasure" caused them to think different than most normal people.

People will go to great lengths for treasure.  Often, they will do things they've never done before.  Sometimes good.  Sometimes bad.

When I can see an opportunity but not the path to it, often I'll ask myself "if there was a million dollars (tax free) sitting at the solution to this problem, would I figure it out"?  If the answer is yes, then I ask "how would I get there"?  This usually gets me out of my routine thinking which clearly wasn't working to turn the problem at hand into an opportunity.

Who in their "right mind" goes exploring the Amazon?  Rarely do people thinking normally accomplish great things.

Tonight, look up in the sky at the moon.  Then, imagine landing there.  Somebody did that and they did it by creating their own "pot of gold" to help them think beyond their current thinking.  If you don't know the story of Apollo 13, check it out.  For them, landing on the moon was the initial opportunity but then, in the middle of the mission, simple survival became the "pot at the end of the rainbow" and it resulted in remarkable thinking and problem solving.

Today, somebody is thinking about landing on Mars.  Today, somebody is thinking about curing cancer.  Today, somebody is thinking about curing Alzheimer's.  I hope they are thinking beyond their thinking yesterday.  I hope they have a BIG pot of "treasure" in their mind to help them to keep thinking bigger.

What are you dreaming of doing?  What is the "pot of gold" that is going to help you think unlike you've ever thought before?

Passion or Purpose?

It was the summer of 1996.  I had graduated from college, played my last college baseball game and had decided on pursing the path of CFA operator.  As a result, I was working 6 days a week, averaging 60 hour weeks (for those that don't love math, that means half of the weeks were more than 60 hours).  I was on salary, making $19,000 a year (adjusting for inflation, that is $31,000 today).  I asked for more $$ or a day off.  The answer I got was NO.  Kaylyn and I were about to be engaged and I remember standing in her drive way telling her I was drained.  My tank was empty.

So, where would I find time to refuel?  Well, I was also playing baseball on a local mens team around metro Atlanta because baseball was my passion.  Most games were Sunday afternoons.  I was working 6 days, going to church and then playing baseball on the 7th day.  As the summer wore on, I began to realize something.  Baseball wasn't my future.  It was my passion, but it wasn't my purpose.  I had 3 things taking my time and leaving no room for restoration.  CFA, Kaylyn, baseball.  I knew that the path to operator required my commitment to CFA.  I knew Kaylyn was going to be my wife.  That left baseball as simply a passion with no purpose.

I called the coach up and told him I couldn't continue.  To this day, it's the only role I've ever quit prematurely.  That was my last time playing in a baseball game.  It was a hard decision.  I love baseball and I hate quiting.   And, it was the right decision.

The world says "follow your passion".  There is some value there BUT it becomes destructive when your passion and your purpose conflict.  The key is to find where passion and purpose overlap.

That's when CFA became my next sport.  It turns out that while I do enjoy throwing and hitting the ball, what I really enjoy is team competition.  I wasn't going to make a living in baseball.  At that moment in her driveway, I wasn't passionate about CFA.  I had to bring those together so that I could make a living doing something I'm passionate about.  It was a decision that changed my life.

Passion alone can take you down the wrong path.  Purpose alone can be draining.  Find your purpose and bring your passion into it.     

A/C switch

                                      

My second car was a 1990 blue Honda Accord with a sun roof.  I really enjoyed that car.  It was quick, handled well and it had a sunroof!  It also had 90,000 miles when I got it...

A while after I got it, the dial for the A/C control broke and I was left with a little metal knob that I needed pliers to adjust anytime I wanted to adjust my climate control in the car.  I drove it like this for well over a year.



My mom asked me why I wasn't getting a new plastic cover so that I could adjust the temperature like most people and I told her I didn't want to spend the $$.  I don't remember the cost but lets go with $25.  She then asked me if I thought I would get a knob before selling the car and I told her YES.  Then she asked if I had $25 I could spend to get the new one and I told her YES.  Then she asked why would I intentionally deal with the difficulty for so long if I knew how to fix it and had the $$ to do so...?  If I was going to spend the $25 eventually, why not go ahead and do it now and enjoy the benefit going forward?

People tend to do this with their homes, too.  It's not uncommon for people to decide to sell their house, do the repairs/remodels to make it sell better and then realize they like their house so much more after the repairs/remodels.  Why did they wait to spend the??  They could have done it a year ago and enjoyed the investments but they waited.  Same $$.  Less benefit.     

What is broken in your day that you are choosing to deal with the hard way when the solution is available now?  What are you waiting for?     

   

My (leadership) Fitness Pal

In January, some of us at CFAROX began a fitness challenge.  Every day since that kick-off event I've tracked my calories and exercise.  Every day, I've gone to bed knowing how I did in my pursuit of being more physically fit.  Some days have been better than others.

I didn't learn anything new.  I had all the same knowledge prior to committing to tracking my behavior.

I've had a nice dinner at Angus Barn.  I've had lots of good free food at our annual seminar.  I've enjoyed Super Bowl snacks.  I've had one of the best meals I've ever had at a restaurant in California.  And, I've tracked it.  By tracking it, I've learned to prepare.  That Angus Barn dinner...  I still ended the day within my target AND enjoyed the dinner.

The result is that my belt is not as tight.  I've run further than I have in 3.5 years.  I've run faster than I have in 2 years.  No new knowledge.  The only thing I've paid for is a new pair of running shoes.

I simply committed to tracking my calories in and out daily.

What fitness goal do you have?  Physical fitness?  Relational Fitness?  Mental Fitness?  Spiritual Fitness?  Are you tracking it?  Daily?

I can tell you for certain, if I stop tracking my fitness, I will go back to my old behavior and get the results that got me out of shape to begin with.

What are you tracking?  Are you tracking the things you say you want to accomplish? 

Say It, Do It.

He's a good....

Sometime near my 10th year as operator we had some folks from CFA visiting the store and one introduced me as a "really good numbers operator".  They meant it as a compliment but that comment stuck with me and not in a good way.  Why did they qualify their statement with "numbers"?  Why not just "really good operator"?  I began studying what it would mean to be a good, well rounded, operator and committed to growing into that.

Fast forward to last week.  At our CFA gathering in California I was talking with a couple people and one introduced me as "a really good operator".  I immediately recalled that introduction 10+ years ago and the comment stuck with me...  and not in a good way.

A "good operator" runs a complete business.  Culture, numbers, results...  But, why did they qualify the statement with "operator"?  I'm sure they meant well.  But, I know operators that when I introduce them I wouldn't limit their introduction to "operator".  He is a great person.  A tremendous influence.  A caring person.  An impactful leader.  A good and faithful servant.  Sure they are also a "good operator" but that's not even close to capturing who they are. 

10 years ago I was introduced as a "good numbers operator".  Last week I was introduced as a "good operator".  Tomorrow I hope to be introduced as a good and faithful servant. 

On my knees

A couple weeks ago, our church selected me to become an Elder and part of the process included an "installation" during the service.  They called me to the front and I answered some questions, vows.  Then, I was asked to kneel and all the elders gathered around me and prayed.  As I kneeled, my perspective shifted immediately.  I had been consciously standing straight (as my mom taught me).  Hands clasped.  Still.  In control.  Respectful.  And, I thought, humble...

Then I was asked to kneel.  When you get on your knees in front of alot of people, and with people standing around you, the feeling changes.  It's a submissive position.  A humbling position.  A good position.

We aren't a church that does alot of kneeling.  I don't know why some churches kneel more than others.  I'm sure some do it so much that it may lose it's meaning.  Our's probably doesn't do it often enough.

It's so easy to see our surroundings from the perspective of standing up straight.  It's how we normally present ourselves.  We've been taught to stand up straight.  "Be professional".  Act with authority.  Be strong. 

BUT, when I was on my knees in front of the congregation, I think I had the best perspective for serving in the role of elder.  AND,  I think that may be true of my role as husband, father, business owner, friend...

We can't always be on our knees literally but we can make an effort to make it the perspective from which we serve.

It's all Portuguese to me....

The theme at NEXT was "Win the Heart".  This may come as a bit of a surprise but that theme didn't exactly get me amped up as we headed to Anaheim, California.  But, 4 days without kids in California with free food and seeing some good friends that we don't see often still was something to look forward to.

Day 2 began with Trudy White (Truett's daughter and John White's mom) sharing a bit of her story.  A part of that story included the beginning of their time in Brazil.  She was having trouble picking up Portuguese, the primary language there, and her inability to communicate easily was contributing to a feeling of being completely overwhelmed and at the end of a particularly hard day she turned to God in desperation.  "Help!!"

As Trudy shared this, I realized something.  Language about "winning the heart" isn't my native language.  In fact, I had just talked with Kaylyn a couple weeks ago about how I need help understanding the feelings and emotions that are occuring in our family.  It's not something I naturally pick up quickly.  It's like Portuguese was for Trudy.  I realized right then that I had not turned to God for help in this area.  I had been content not being able to "speak the language" but I realized that in doing so, I was beginning to get overwhelmed and limiting the person God created me to be.

Just as God responded to Trudy's plea, He has been waiting for me to ask.  "God, I don't understand all this!  Help!"

At NEXT, we have a few options of sessions we can attend and I typically choose those that interest me.  In that moment, I felt a nudge to select a session that I'd never have chosen for fun.  "Cultivating a Healthy Soul".  I think Kaylyn was just a wee-bit surprised when I told her I was going to that one with her.  There were other "practical" options...

After that morning, instead of looking for affirmations that we were doing all the right things and that I'm a good leader, I was paying close attention to how I could learn to "win the heart".  Beginning with my own heart.  Then others.

Right now, it's all still a foreign language to me.  It might as well be Portuguese.  But, I'm learning.  HE is winning my heart.

What's Your PR?

In 2006, a friend and I decided to train for a marathon.  I had been running 3 miles most days and could run a max of about 5 miles.  A marathon is 26.2 miles.  I don't even love running.   Honestly, most days I don't even like it.  I do like challenges, though.  I like competition.  This was a personal challenge and a competition against myself.  Every day part of me wanted to be lazy and part of me wanted to check off that day's workout.  The finish line of the Marine Corp Marathon was a rewarding experience BUT the most impactful experience was the daily competition.  I won most of the days from the day I signed up for the marathon till the day I ran it.  Not all of them, but most.

Dec 31, 2018.  A quick self assessment revealed that I needed a change.  In may of 2018 I had run for the last time that year.  I was experiencing some joint discomfort that pushed me to try some different fitness options.  They weren't bad.  I was getting stronger BUT, I was also getting fatter and I found myself getting winded too easily.  When I heard myself breathing hard after some basic activity I decided it was time to get back into cardio exercise and running is the easiest option. 

January 1, 2019 I ran for the first time in 7 months.  That was the longest stretch of no running since I started in 1995.  My goal was to finish 3 miles without stopping.  That has been my baseline distance since 2003.  I had no time goal.  Just finish without walking.  And, I did.  With a pace of just over 10 minutes/mile.  Since then, my goal has been to trim my pace.  Yesterday, January 18th, I did my 9th run of 2019.  It was my first run under 9 minute pace in a LONG time.  It wasn't easy.  I think people could hear my breathing half a mile away.  I even heard a guy yell from his garage "You got it!"  I'm guessing he heard me passing...  But I got it!  My PR (personal record) for the past year. 

So, what's the point?  Back in 2006, I remember days at the store where things weren't great.  That happens when you are on a team.  There is almost always something that needs attention.  The more people on the team, the more challenges.  The marathon training gave me something I could work on that was just me.  No team.  Nobody but me.  Nobody to coach but me.  Nobody to push but me.  Same thing the last 18 days.  The only one standing between me and my goal was me.  Sound selfish?

These challenges provide a break from coaching others and allow me to lead me.  Instead of 100+ people, just 1.  I find I lead others better when I lead me well.  And, sometimes things may not be going like I want them to with the team but I can still go for a run.  I can find that win on a day that may not have had many wins.  AND, the win at the end of the run can lead to wins elsewhere.  I know I lead others better when I'm leading me well. 

What is your personal win today?  What could it be tomorrow?  Sometimes, days on a team can be a challenge but you can always find your personal win.  Lead you to those wins and then you will lead others better.