About a week ago I did a story about how often I've said NO to what should be a YES. This is a similar story.
I do a planning day every month and one of the benefits of this day is time to reflect on my roles and identify what I'm doing well and what I'm not doing well. This particular planning day I realized that I had a tendency to respond with no or a delayed yes when my girls would ask if we could do something. Maybe its kick the soccer ball or play a board game... I didn't like this trend. I didn't like the message it sent to my girls so I decided that going forward my default answer would be "YES, lets go". This is the answer unless I can't. And "I can't" must be a real "I can't". Not an "I can't" that's really a "I don't want to" or "I'd rather not" or "maybe" or "later". I want them to expect the answer to be YES when they ask me to do something with them.
This can be applied at CFA as well. What do I tend to say NO to? What do I give delayed yes's to? What needs to change? What needs immediate Yes's?
It turns out that by deciding what you will say YES to up front, you are also deciding what you will say NO to. Every YES also has a NO. If we decide up front what gets YES and what gets NO, we are more likely to say YES to the best things and NO to the "just good" things.
