Why Marathon of Learning?

Back in 2011 I started capturing stories from my life. Or simple observations. The idea being that I need to remember what I’m learning and track how I’m thinking.

That year I had read Mindset by Carol Dweck and realized I didn’t like how I thought on a lot of things, particularly struggles and failure. I needed a more growth oriented mindset. So, I started writing.

Why marathon? It’s proven to fit well as it’s now 2018 and I’m still learning. Learning isn’t a sprint. Not a 400 meter dash. It’s ongoing. It’s life long.

More recently I’m learning the value of knowing, sharing and writing your story. This is part of my story.

Wednesday, September 14, 2011

A Run at the Beach


This year, from March till early August I was unable to run anything more than 1 mile due to an IT Band issue on my right knee.  In place of running, I did the Insanity workout series which I really enjoyed.  But, one thing that running offers that most other workout programs don't is time to think.  When I run, I am by myself (usually) and out in God's creation.  Sometimes that is just in the neighborhood and sometimes it is in more scenic places.  Sometimes when I am running, I am able to work through some challenges/opportunities I am in the middle of.  Other times, I am able to just listen.  It is during these times that I find that I "hear" some messages that God wants to teach me or remind me of.

One of my favorite times to run is while on vacation.  Many people think I am crazy because that is when they least want to run.  I have a few reasons for really liking to run at these times.  1)  I like to eat more on vacation so the running helps me not put on alot more weight although sometimes I still eat more than I run.  2)  I like to see the new scenery.  I love seeing new stuff and I can run farther when I don't know what is around the corner or just down the street.  3)  I like to scope out the places that I want to go see at a more relaxed pace later in the day or week.

I didn't get to run when we went to NY this year which was a bummer because we spent a couple days in Niagara Falls and that would have been a great place to run with the view of the falls.  I wonder if I could have run from one side to the other?  I haven't ever run from one country to another.

A week or so before we went to the beach I decided to give my knee another chance at running. I made it my normal distance without any pain.  So, then I added a few miles and still no pain.  Great!

At the beach I ran most of the days we were there.  Since it is flat (and because my wife was running some long distances), I decided to see what I could do after not running for about 5-6 months.  Kaylyn told me she needed to do 6 or 7 miles according to her 1/2 marathon training schedule.  So, that became my target.  I intended to do at least 5 but was hoping to do 6.  It was an out and back run so you really commit to the distance half way through it unless you want to do a good bit of walking, which I didn't.

That morning I headed out for the causeway which was just over 3 miles away.  As I said above, I like looking at stuff while I run.  That includes the path in front of me.  As I was running, saw a penny on the sidewalk.  As my friends would expect, I stopped to pick it up.  I had just burnt calories and made money!  Years ago I either read or heard somebody talking about how they are reminded what is printed on our coins each time they find one.  In God We Trust.  Up to this point in the run, I had been in the mode of worrying about some challenges in life.  So, seeing the penny really helped me refocus.  This doesn't just happen like flipping a switch.  It is intentional and slow at times.  Instead of being challenges or problems, I try to see them as opportunities.  Opportunities to grow and learn.    
      


Back to running, now with a penny in my hand.  As I was crossing a side street I saw a small wrench.  I didn't pick it up because I didn't want to carry it for 4+ miles.  But, I did take note of what intersection it was at so I could pick it up on the way back.  




At this point I have been able to get my thinking more productive and open to learning vs. just worrying. 
As I am approaching the end of run out to the causeway and the half way mile point, I see another penny.  Of course, I stop to pick it up.  Now I have 2 pennies and a wrench waiting for me a couple miles ahead.  So, I am thinking about these items and working on listening.  I have been reminded twice now about "In God We Trust".  Did I trully believe it?  Could I really say, "In God I trust"?  I was working on it.


I hit the end of the first half of my run (3.1 miles by the way) so I turn around and start heading back.  I am focused on finding that wrench and wrestling with "In God I Trust".  Amazingly, I had already forgotten exactly where that wrench was.  I remembered the street name but forgot the landmarks.  This is important because as I am running and thinking and listening, I sometimes get so lost in thought that I forget my surroundings.  This is nice because I also forget any discomfort of running or wishing I was closer to the finish.  But, all of the sudden I had realized that I had passed some side streets without paying attention to their names.  And since I couldn't remember any landmarks I began to be worried I had passed the street already.  Should I go back and check?  If I did, I would add even more mileage and I was already pushing my distance to a point that was probably not the wisest since I hadn't trained much and my knee was still having to get used to the longer distance.  I decided to keep going in the hope that the wrench was still ahead.  Sure enough, I come to the street but I can't remember exactly where it was at the intersection.  I knew it was in the grassy sand area, not on the sidewalk or road.  I took a few minutes looking for it but I eventually found it.              

I still have at least a mile to go, probably closer to 2 and I have more time to think and listen.  The pennies and wrench are getting some of my attention but I am still concentrating on what I can be learning from the opportunities I had been worrying about and "In God I Trust".  I realized that I had some good visual tools in my hands.

Sometimes it feels like God throws a "wrench" in my plans but if I listen He will share his "two cents" with me.  "Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding.  In all your ways acknowledge Him and he will make your paths straight", are two of my favorite verses.  My Mom made me a picture with that verse on it and it is up in my bedroom  Proverbs 3:5-6 is so reassuring but it is also so hard to apply at times.  So often I want to be in control.  So often I want my plans to be kept.  So often I know what is right for me.  I don't really want to be in control.  I know God knows what is best for me.  But, I get distracted and pride sneeks in.

I got back to the house we were staying at.  I had completed about 6.2 miles which was what I was hoping to do but I was still feeling pretty good, and I knew Kaylyn was going to run 7 the next day, so I figured I was so close I might as well keep going.  I did about 1 more mile so I ended up just over 7 miles.  On that last mile I found one more penny.  I consider that my reward for "going the extra mile". 

So, when it feels like God throws a wrench in my plans, I need to stop and listen to His "two cents" and if I do listen and apply what I hear, He will "make my path straight".


As a footnote to this entry, I had a few wrenches thrown in my plans as I was writing this.  It took about 6 days to get this one entry done but in that time I was able to think about it more and really understand what it means.  

Tuesday, September 6, 2011

The Bench

Recently, Kaylyn called me to say that a neighbor had some yard furniture at the end of their driveway for anybody to take for free.  I like FREE so I piled the kids into the truck and drove down the street.  This bench was one of the two items they had.  At first glance, I wasn't too interested.  The wood that makes up the seat was rotting and had bird junk all over it.  Nobody would want to sit on it.  But, I looked closer and the metal was in good shape and very heavy duty (sturdy).  I looked underneath and saw it would be easy to take wood slats out.  I was hoping I could sand all the existing wood but saw that replacing a few slats was certainly an option.  So, I took it.

I tried sanding the wood.  Sanding worked well on the wood that made up the back of the bench but the seat pieces were rotting and needed to be replaced.  I was able to get replacement pieces for under $5.  It took about an hour to cut and sand some wood to fit it.  I sealed it with some sealer I had in the garage.  So, for about $5 and an hour or so of work, I now have a perfectly good bench for the back yard.  I have been looking at benches like this at stores for over a year but wasn't willing to pay $100+ for one.  Now I have one.

So, what is the lesson?

Sometimes when we are leading a team or creating a team we look for the perfect person to do the job.  The perfect bench was a sturdy bench with a nice decorative metal frame and wooden slats and cost less than $50.  The "perfect person" is often not available just like my "perfect bench" wasn't available.  Sometimes we are better off taking the best we can find and working with them to develop into what the organization needs.  A person with a good foundation but with some rough edges or some rot may just need to be encouraged, given a few new tools and allowed to show us what they can do.  Our perfect bench may be right in front of us disguised as a rotten old bench.  Our perfect person for the job may be right in front of us disguised as a bored, complacent team member that just needs us to find that strong frame and willingness to invest a little time and care in them.

               

Monday, September 5, 2011

Reason for Blogging

I am learning about blogging primarily to log lessons I learn.  These may be life lessons, reading, listening, thoughts while running, lessons learned from my wife and my girls, from customers, from my team, or any other learning opportunity.  If anybody happens to read this and has any recommendations for how this is organized or presented, please let me know.  Just looking for the best way to organize learning so it can be referenced in future by myself, my family or others.

Thursday, September 1, 2011

Book List

Top 10

Mindset by Carol Dweck
The Servant by James Hunter
21 Irrefutable Laws of Leadership by John Maxwell
Setting the Table by Danny Meyer (fairly specific to restaurants or customer service)
The Wealthy Barber by David Chilton
Team of Rivals by Doris Kearns Goodwin
The Advantage by Patrick Lencioni
The 5 Dysfunctions of a Team by Patrick Lencioni
Grit by Angela Duckworth
The Speed of Trust by Stephen M R Covey

Albom, Mitch 
  • The 5 People You Meet in Heaven
Andrews, Andy 
  • The Travelers Gift
Blanchard, Ken
  • Leadership and the One Minute Manager
  • The Secret
Buckingham, Marcus
  • First, Break all the Rules
Burkett, Larry
  • Business by the Book
  • The Complete Financial Guide for Young Couples
  • Whatever Happened to the American Dream
Carnegie, Dale
  • How to Stop Worrying and Start Living
Cathy, S. Truett
  • Eat Mor Chikin, Inspire More People
  • How Did You Do It Truett?
  • It is Easier to Build Boys Than Mend Men                      
  • It is Easier to Succeed that to Fail
  • Wealth, Is it Worth It?
Cloud, Henry
  • Integrity
  • Boundaries
  • Necessary Endings
Collins, Jim
  • Good to Great
  • How the Mighty Fall
Connellan, Tom
  • Inside the Magic Kingdom
Covey, Stephen
  • The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People
DePree, Max
  • Leadership is an Art
Dobson, James
  • Life on the Edge
  • The Strong Willed Child
Farrar, Steve
  • Finishing Strong
Gibbs, Joe
  • Racing to Win
Giuliani, Rudolph
  • Leadership
Gladwell, Malcolm 
  • Blink, The Power of Thinking Without Thinking
  • Outliers
  • The Tipping Point
Gray, John
  • Men are From Mars, Women are From Venus
Hendricks, Howard
  • The 7 Laws of the Leader
Hybels, Bill
  • Too Busy Not to Pray
Kimmel, Tim
  • Basic Training for a Few Good Men
Krzyzewski, Mike
  • Leading with the Heart
Lencioni, Patrick
  • The 5 Disfunctions of a Team
Levitt, Steven and Stephen Dubner
  • Freakonomics
Lewis, C.S.
  • Mere Christianity
  • Miracles
  • Screwtape Letters
  • Great Divorce
  • A Grief Observed
Lucado, Max
  • 3:16
MacDonald, Gordon
  • The Effective Father
Maxwell, John
  • Becoming a Person of Influence
  • Developing the Leaders Around You
  • Failing Forward
  • Leadership Gold
  • The Success Journey
  • Today Matters
  • The Winning Attitude
McCullough, David
  • Truman
  • John Adams 
Miller, John
  • The Heart of a Servant Leader
Mitchell, John
  • The Christian in Business
Moorley, Patrick
  • The Man in the Mirror  (great devotional for men)
Morris, Edmund
  • Dutch, A Memoir of Ronald Reagan
  • The Rise of Theodore Roosevelt
  • Theodore Rex
Newberry, Tommy
  • The 4:8 Principle
Omartian, Stormie
  • The Power of a Praying Husband
Ortberg, John
  • The Life you Always Wanted
Pausch, Randy
  • The Last Lecture       
Peters, Tom and Nancy Austin
  • A Passion for Excellence
Phillips, Donald
  • The Founding Fathers on Leadership
Ramsey, Dave
  • The Total Money Makeover  (sound financial advice)
Runkel, Hal
  • Screamfree Parenting
Sanborn, Mark
  • The Fred Factor
Sewell, Carl
  • Customers For Life
Smalley, Gary
  • Secrets to Lasting Love
Sowell, Thomas
  • Basic Economics
Sproul, R.C.
  • The Holiness of God
Stanley, Andy
  • Next Generation Leader
Stanley, Charles
  • Success God’s Way
Stanley, Thomas J. & William Danko
  • Millionaire Next Door (Good financial book)
Strobel, Lee
  • The Case for Christ
Swindoll, Charles
  • The Greatest Life of All, Jesus
Warren, Rick
  • The Purpose Driven Life